Why Aren’t More People Successful? One of the reasons is FEAR. Daily routine, habits, are ingrained in their subconscious programming, and we are comfortable with those habits.

Making the Choice to take a Chance and do something different, is something we Fear. Fear is where the “I can’t, I’m not capable, I don’t know how, I’m afraid of talking to people, What if I fail……”   phrases live!

FEAR:  False Evidence Appearing Real
By the way, we’ve all got those fears. Leaders learn to face Fear and do it anyway, as they discover when they do, it wasn’t as hard as their mind was making it to be.

FEAR:  Forget Everything And Run
Here’s a simple example:
You’re out and about and you see some 20 year old, texting on their phone. Their thumbs are going a mile a minute and you think: “That’s someone I need to talk to, but what do I say, how can I break the ice and not look like an idiot, but he’s only like 20, what am I afraid of, what do I say to not sound like a salesman… Oh. He’s gone. Darn I should have said something!”

Here’s a simple approach that is really quite painless to open the door: “Hey…. How’s it going?” “Looks like you spend a lot of time on your phone.” “Have you heard about the new social platform?”

You opened the door and either you get a grunt, or you get someone interested and wanting to no more info.The hardest part, is opening the door. But when you practice a simple script like that until it feels comfortable, opening the door becomes easy!

FEAR:  Feeling Excited And Ready!

Move past FEAR…!
How would your life be different if you were making so much money that you never needed to worry about bills or the price of food, or paying your mortgage, or…..   ever again?

Wake up each day, and focus on your long-term big goals! Write them down and put them on the wall.  Make it the first thing you see, and read, every morning!

Then realize this simple reality: Words tell us what we want. Action tells us what we get!

Daily habits are simple actions that move us on small steps towards our huge long-term goals.

FEAR:  From Every Action – Results!

seems-impossibleYou’ve begun down a new path. The path less traveled. You’re now heading towards becoming part of the 1% group. A group of Leaders who just think differently. Other people will begin to tell you that you are amazing, as they could never do what you’ve done. Then you try to tell them that the door is always open for anyone who’s ready to convert their dreams into goals by putting a date on them, making the decision putting plans into motion.

Disbelief is anchored in accepting life, as it shows up, as normal and the only way it will ever be. It will never change. It’s just the way it is. I grew up in a challenged world and I just don’t have what it takes to……. The list of excuses is a mile long, Yet, Life always changes. No one remains the same. The only real question is, “Who is in the driver’s seat?” The habit or the dream and vision.

Now we’re on a new journey. We realized that developing new habits of success is nothing more than changing out internal programming… our subconscious habits that were established in the first 6 years of our lives. We’re now creating a few extremely important new internal programs that will become new habits, anchored in our subconscious mind. 21 days to new patterns…!

Have you ever heard people tell you: “they can’t because…”
Their belief is a list of excuses dating back to their childhood or all the way back to how they were born handicapped. Yes, some people are born without sight, or hearing, or a sense of smell…. Some were born without arms or legs. Yet isn’t it interesting how many people take their birth challenges, and turn them into the most empowering beliefs of: “Yes I Can…!!!”

How many times have you heard successful Leaders say: “If I can do this, anyone can!”

Here’s an example of one amazing guys who turned his birth challenge into a totally positive daily mindset.
His name is Alvin Law. Alvin Law was born without any arms. 4 days later he was given up for adoption by his birth parents. His adoption parents went to the hospital on a regular basis, looking for babies who were born with challenges and left behind by their birth parents. They would care for these challenged babies while looking for good parents who would adopt them, love them and care for them as if they were the most precious babies in the world!

For what ever reason, they couldn’t find anyone who wanted Alvin, and after several months, they decided that Alvin had become a special part of their family. Good for both these wonderful parents and for Alvin, as their positive energy transformed Alvin Law into someone who looked past not having arms.

Alvin pursued many things including playing the trombone, drums and the piano. Really? Without arms?? Nothing is impossible for those who look beyond life’s challenges!

Alvin was a radio DJ and began doing lectures. One day he woke up wanting to create something to help his audience achieve their goals in life through a simple map. He wanted to break down his lecture into 5 simple points. Alvin turned his first name into an acronym that he now uses in his lectures.

Alvin’s Law:

A – Attitude – More than being positive. It’s our way of looking at things. It defines who we are and what we become. A way of presenting yourself to the world, every single day. It alters our energy.

L – Learning – Life is where you learn, we learn from life. The knowledge is around us. We grow with what we know, see, visit, read, feel, experience things…

V – Value – Valuing your Life and Spirit – To many live their lives as a victim. You never get an answer from: “Why me?” Stuck in the moment. We tend to crawl into a home when something bad happens to us.
Instead we see the good things in our life, our gratitude. Attitude of gratitude. How lucky am I… There are so many things to be grateful for.

I – Imagination – This is where we make everything happen in our hearts. We can all have a vision. Acting on the vision. The world championship doesn’t just come to us, we have to work to win the game.

N – Never Giving Up – Easy to say. Hard to do. We talk about wanting to be better, but then we thing things are going to happen on their own. If our resolution is to quit smoking we need to be realistic with our timeline. What is that we want to become with our resolution?

Alvin said on a recent radio interview for creating a great 2015:

“As you begin the New Year, simply consider this: We’ve all got things that are important in our lives. That are meaningful to us. Focus on those things. Focus on the reality that there are things out there that will make us happy.

There’s a difference between losing weight for health versus losing health for vanity. What’s really important in our life? What is real?

It all starts with an internal calmness. Constantly wanting to improve our life. And making sure our intentions set our world towards that direction of what we want to achieve.”

people-who-changeThe light bulb was created by some crazy guy by the name of Edison.   Really….   It wasn’t his first invention. Edison began with an invention that enhanced the telegraph industry, which he called the Quadraplex Telegraph. He was looking to sell the invention and was questioning what he could get for it.  He was thinking around $4,000, which back in 1877 was a lot of money.  Western Union offered him $10,000 which would be worth over $200k today. That provided the money for Edison to build his industrial lab in Menlo Park.

That same year, Edison invented the phonograph, recording sound on tin foil which he demonstrated in Washington, DC in 1878.  At the same time he was working on improving incandescent lights, inventing the ability to capture visual images which created a little thing called the movie industry, along with a few other ideas flying around his mind.

From all of his crazy ideas, he was also a great businessman, and formed a little company called General Electric, or GE, which today is involved with everything from generators, electric trains, jet engines, wind turbines, plastics, non-stick cookware with the invention of Lexon, health care, GE financing, RCA, NBC, Comcast…………………

People like Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, Steve Jobs, and the list goes on, were considered crazy by many who met them. If anyone hears you talking about what we’re building, and they tell you you’re crazy, respond back to them with:  “You mean crazy like Steve Jobs and Thomas Edison?   Thanks!”

In the pursuit of building new habits we need to look at people like Ford, Edison, Jobs, Michael Dell, and even those who were driven, not by business pursuits, but by amazing visions of making the world a better place.  Gandhi, Mandela, Martin Luther King, to name a few…

Is it possible that our vision incorporate both of those purposes?  The spirit of helping others reach their goals and dreams and the drive to build an innovative new massive business model.

Something is brewing that is so incredibly exciting!  We’re part of the creation of a new social media platform, with the potential of changing the world as we know it.  That may sound crazy, but it’s crazy ideas that changed the world in the past, and those who were part of those changes, become very wealthy!

Wouldn’t it be nice to have everything run on autopilot? Chores, exercise, eating healthy and getting your work done just happening automatically. Unless they manage to invent robot servants, all your work isn’t going to disappear overnight.  But if you program behaviors as new habits you can take out the struggle.

With a small amount of initial discipline, you can create a new habit that requires little effort to maintain. Here are some tips for creating new habits and making them stick:

  1. Commit to Thirty Days – Three to four weeks is all the time you need to make a habit automatic.  If you can make it through the initial conditioning phase, it becomes much easier to sustain. A month is a good block of time to commit to a change since it easily fits in your calendar.
  2. Make it Daily – Consistency is critical if you want to make a habit stick. If you want to start exercising, go to the gym every day for your first thirty days. Going a couple times a week will make it harder to form the habit. Activities you do once every few days are trickier to lock in as habits.
  3. Start Simple – Don’t try to completely change your life in one day. It is easy to get over-motivated and take on too much. If you wanted to study two hours a day, first make the habit to go for thirty minutes and build on that.
  4. Remind Yourself – Around two weeks into your commitment it can be easy to forget. Place reminders to execute your habit each day or you might miss a few days. If you miss time it defeats the purpose of setting a habit to begin with.
  5. Stay Consistent – The more consistent your habit the easier it will be to stick. If you want to start exercising, try going at the same time, to the same place for your thirty days. When cues like time of day, place and circumstances are the same in each case it is easier to stick.
  6. Get a Buddy – Find someone who will go along with you and keep you motivated if you feel like quitting.
  7. Form a Trigger – A trigger is a ritual you use right before executing your habit. If you wanted to wake up earlier, this could mean waking up in exactly the same way each morning. If you wanted to quit smoking you could practice snapping your fingers each time you felt the urge to pick up a cigarette.
  8. Replace Lost Needs – If you are giving up something in your habit, make sure you are adequately replacing any needs you’ve lost. If watching television gave you a way to relax, you could take up meditation or reading as a way to replace that same need.
  9. Be Imperfect – Don’t expect all your attempts to change habits to be successful immediately. It took me four independent tries before I started exercising regularly. Now I love it. Try your best, but expect a few bumps along the way.
  10. Use “But” – A prominent habit changing therapist once told me this great technique for changing bad thought patterns. When you start to think negative thoughts, use the word “but” to interrupt it. “I’m no good at this, but, if I work at it I might get better later.”
  11. Remove Temptation – Restructure your environment so it won’t tempt you in the first thirty days. Remove junk food from your house, cancel your cable subscription, throw out the cigarettes so you won’t need to struggle with willpower later.
  12. Associate With Role Models – Spend more time with people who model the habits you want to mirror. A recent study found that having an obese friend indicated you were more likely to become fat. You become what you spend time around.
  13. Run it as an Experiment – Withhold judgment until after a month has past and use it as an experiment in behavior. Experiments can’t fail, they just have different results so it will give you a different perspective on changing your habit.
  14. Swish – A technique from NLP. Visualize yourself performing the bad habit. Next visualize yourself pushing aside the bad habit and performing an alternative. Finally, end that sequence with an image of yourself in a highly positive state. See yourself picking up the cigarette, see yourself putting it down and snapping your fingers, finally visualize yourself running and breathing free. Do it a few times until you automatically go through the pattern before executing the old habit.
  15. Write it Down – A piece of paper with a resolution on it isn’t that important. Writing that resolution is. Writing makes your ideas more clear and focuses you on your end result.
  16. Know the Benefits – Familiarize yourself with the benefits of making a change. Get books that show the benefits of regular exercise. Notice any changes in energy levels after you take on a new diet. Imagine getting better grades after improving your study habits.
  17. Know the Pain – You should also be aware of the consequences. Exposing yourself to realistic information about the downsides of not making a change will give you added motivation.
  18. Do it For Yourself – Don’t worry about all the things you “should” have as habits. Instead tool your habits towards your goals and the things that motivate you. Weak guilt and empty resolutions aren’t enough.